A few tricks of the trade can help keep your birth order from dragging down your credit score and keep you from piling up a mountain of debt. Here's a look at what you need to know to stay out of the financial middle seat.
Family Firstborns
Fierce responsibility is a prominent trait of firstborns, says Dr. Soroya Bacchus, a triple board-certified psychiatrist based in Los Angeles.
"They're the most punctual about paying bills because they love to be seen as stable and dependable," says Bacchus. "They won't let financial details like payment due dates and avoiding unnecessary over-the-limit fees fall through the cracks."Fierce responsibility is a prominent trait of firstborns, says Dr. Soroya Bacchus, a triple board-certified psychiatrist based in Los Angeles.
Bacchus says firstborns are also phenomenally organized and "keep their finances in order." So they often have great credit scores.
"Thirty-five percent of your FICO score is based on paying bills on time. So being responsible helps your credit score," says Chris Dlugozima, certified consumer credit counselor at GreenPath Debt Solutions in New York.
But all that perfectionism and drive of being the first in the birth order can backfire.
"More often than not, being a perfectionist leads to burnout and giving up or setting unrealistic financial goals," says Kinney. "That may sabotage your finances."
Temper your traits: Instead of setting an unrealistic long-term goal like tripling the amount you put into your 401(k) every month, Kinney suggests setting attainable short-term goals.
"Middle children are inventive, natural problem-solvers. They grow up thinking they can handle anything themselves, including money problems," says Bacchus.
"Being inventive can result in constantly moving debt around between different cards through cash advances and balance transfers," says Dlugozima.
Bacchus says it also makes them prone to secrecy. "Inventing" ways to a pay a bill or to afford an impulse splurge can create the need to cover up -- or ignore -- financial troubles.
A secretive side muddies middle's water, making them more likely to hide financial secrets such as unpaid bills and accounts sent to collection from their spouses. They believe they can fix the problem themselves. Dlugozima says when a middle child and his/her spouse seek a mortgage or loan together, a middle's in-the-dark mate may be blindsided with a rejection because of the money-hiding middle's secret poor credit scores.Temper your traits: Kinney says soul-searching helps resist the temptation to be secretive.” If it's embarrassing or disappointing to not have enough money so you get creative, (then) instead of secrecy, work together to create a mutual plan to turn your finances around," he says.
Family Babies
Bacchus says babies of the family are very social and tend to prioritize dinners out with friends, latte runs and trips to the mall over budgets. This leaves little or no money to pay bills.
Bacchus says babies of the family are very social and tend to prioritize dinners out with friends, latte runs and trips to the mall over budgets. This leaves little or no money to pay bills.
"It's tough for those youngest in the birth order to spot these activities are the first ones to cut if you're in a budget crisis:, says Kinney. "A social youngest child will have problems learning to value saving long-term over the instant gratification of a social event," he says.
"Parents often dote on the youngest children, so they're conditioned to rely on others. They get into financial trouble because they can't handle responsibility and may even believe someone will fix their financial problems if their parents have paid bills for them," says Bacchus.
Temper your traits: Look for ways to spend less while still being social. Go for coffee instead of dinner, or rent a movie with friends instead of dinner and a movie out.
"Start a 'social fund,'" says Rachele Cawaring Bouchand, a CFP and director of financial planning at Clark Nuber P.S., a CPA firm in Bellevue, Wash. That way it'll be easy to spot how much money you spend on social outings.
Only children and firstborns tend to share most birth order-related traits. "Like firstborns, only children are perfectionists who are generally very responsible," says Bacchus.
But in addition to paying bills on time and generally having a good (or great) credit score, Bacchus says only children also seek approval from superiors and people older than them.
"This could lead to trying to impress people at all costs, even if it means living beyond your means," says Dlugozima.
Temper your traits: Bacchus says it's easy to get caught up in all that impressing, especially if it seems to be working. After all, who doesn't like to be liked?
Bacchus says only children should slow down and evaluate things. In other words, take a breath.
"Look at your relationship with the person you're trying to impress," Bacchus says. "If it's a one-way street where you're always shelling out cash just to impress and you're not being equally wooed, it's time to turn your attention elsewhere. Put your money toward a reward with long-term benefits like a paid-off credit card or padded nest egg."
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